There is room for YOU in your life. You deserve to be seen and heard.
I am an ACC and Whole Person Certified Life Coach. And I am a recovering people-pleasing perfectionist. My passion is helping women in mid-life who have lost themselves in the service of others to find and honor their voice, so they can reclaim their personal authority and lead a confident, empowered, and compassionate life.
As a recovering People-Pleasing Perfectionist I was lost to myself for a long time. I usually worked my needs and wants around other people’s. My family was always put first. Then friends. My needs were sometimes fourth or fifth.
I bought into the story that an ideal woman, and ideal mother, is helpful and kind. She is a good person if she sacrifices her own wants and needs for others. She never puts herself first. This story made me feel guilty when I did things for myself.
When I hit my mid 40’s, I came into the proverbial mid-life crisis. I looked around me thinking, “how did I end up here?” and, “what does my future hold?” and most importantly, “who am I and what do I want?”
There was a voice in me longing to speak up. A voice that deserved to be heard. I compared myself to stories of women who made radical, drastic changes to their lives. I heard about these women and believed that to speak my truth I’d have to completely change and live a radically different life. I thought there was only one way to be fierce. That scared me.
I longed to start living my life for myself, to have my sense of worth come from within, and take care of my own needs. But I was trapped in either/or thinking. I felt like my choices were: either take care of everyone else’s needs or take care of my needs. I didn’t know that you can do both.
Like so many people-pleasers, I was constantly seeking external validation. I was basing my individual value on what others thought of me. I had built my life around an inner narrative that said: “my real worth in the real world comes from supporting and serving others”. I let other people’s stories determine who I was, how I should act, and what makes me a good person. But my true self bucked against the stories.
Things changed when I learned how to rewrite my story. I decide who I am, how I should act, and where my value comes from.
Using techniques of narrative coaching, I’m honoring my voice and learning that I no longer need to hide or suppress my needs and wants. I still enjoy supporting my loved ones, but I now include myself in that circle of people I love.
That’s what I want for you too, and that’s what we’ll do together. You’ll learn how to rewrite your stories & inner narrative, so that you will shift your perspective, find your voice, reclaim your personal authority, and find joy & appreciation in your current life.
Change is possible, no matter how long you have been feeling lost in your disempowering stories and patterns, or how terrible it currently feels. You can be seen and heard without giving up on the life you’ve created.
Your voice is uniquely yours; you don’t have to sound or act like anyone else. That’s the beauty of it. Standing in your power doesn’t have to require a radical, aggressive change. It can, but it doesn’t have to. What it does require is radical honesty.
In my coaching program, Cultivate Your Voice, my mission is to help you find and honor your true self by honestly assessing limiting stories and shifting your perspective, so you can reclaim your personal authority and lead an empowered, confident and compassionate life. You can support others and support yourself.
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