CPC, WPCC, ICF ACC, Trauma Informed Certification
My journey to becoming a successful Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy Life and Relationship Coach, began with my own personal exploration of liberating myself from traditional structures of identity and love.
Growing up in the Midwest, in a very conservative, hetero/cis white community, I was always afraid of my desires, and often confused about my identity. Because there were no examples available to me, I defaulted to an identity of straight cis girl, because that was what was expected. It wasn’t until I was grown and several years into a rocky marriage that I finally faced my truth. I had fallen in love with a woman. I was nervous to confess my desire to my then husband, but I knew that it was crucial that I did. He and I learned the hard way that hiding and denying desire can lead to destruction. Our path to recovery from his infidelity lead us to deeper communication about our urges, our fears, and ourselves. What we were discovering is that we both identified with a desire to be intimate with more than one person. So when I met this woman, I proposed what seemed like an insane idea at that time. What if we all were together? A triad. I had never even heard the word polyamorous, or knew structures like that actually existed, but my gut was telling me I wanted this, and they did too.
The reason I am so passionate about what I do, is because when I was coming to terms with my poly, queer, gender-fluid identity, there wasn’t much besides a few books. I tried traditional therapy, but their education was primarily rooted in monogamy, and even if they were familiar with non-monogamy, none of them had lived experience, or personally identified with polyamory. I felt alone, and made a million mistakes along my journey. I realized then that I wanted to take the lessons I had learned and formally educate myself so that I could be in service of others. No one should feel alone, and the particular adventure from monogamy to non-monogamy and/or polyamory can be a challenge. Facing possessiveness, insecure attachments, and even coming out to family and friends can be traumatic.
I am an advocate for your journey. I focus on strengthening the self first, so that you may build from there a place of secure attachment to your partner or partners.
I am happy to say, my then husband, is now one of two primary partners in my life. I love deeply and I am at peace. I am kitchen table poly, and our constellation of chosen family, lovers and partners continues to grow and embrace one another. I am grateful for my mistakes, and all the struggles, because it led me to my most authentic self. That is what I hope for you as well.
If you are ready to face yourself and your real truth, even if you’re not sure exactly what that is yet, then I am the coach for you.
What You Get When You Coach With Me…
-60 Min TELEHEALTH SESSION
-WHOLE PERSON COACHING METHOD
-GOAL SETTING AND FOLLOW THROUGH
-CORE VALUES ASSESSMENT AND ACTION STEPS
-INTRODUCTION TO MEDITATION
-BODY SCAN AWARENESS
-INTODUCTION TO ATTACHMENT THEORY
-COMMUNICATION STYLES AND TOOLS
-THE NERVOUS SYSTEM AND FIGHT/FLIGHT/FREEZE/FAWN
-THE WINDOW OF TOLERANCE AND TRIGGER RESPONSE
-BOUNDARY SETTING AND NEEDS ASSESMENT
-TRAUMA INFORMED COACHING
-INNER RELATIONSHIP FOCUSING TECHNIQUES
-JEALOUSY EXPLORATION EXERCISES
-And so much more!
SPECIALTIES: SEX POSITIVITY, LGBTQIA, NON-MONOGAMY/POLYAMORY
As a coach, I men who don’t want therapy but want support. I help men find the deeper answers and the appropriate guidance and direction from within themselves. I also assist couples to improve their emotional connection and communication. I believe that we all need support at different times of our journey to help us grow, develop learn and feel supported. I know that in my own experience, having supportive and caring people be part of my circle has helped me be a healthier, happier and more successful person than I could have ever imagined. I hope I will be able to be a coach for you that will help you identify your goals and dreams and help you reach them to create the life that brings you wholeness and success in every aspect of the word.
Contact me today via my email or website listed below:
www.patrickmonette.com
–MORE ABOUT Patrick:
I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Alcohol and Substance Abuse Counselor and Whole Person Trained Coach specializing in individual, group and couple services and maintain a private practice based in New York. I work with coaching clients from all over the United States as well as internationally.
With many years’ experience as a therapist and coach, I enjoy working with a broad spectrum of clients. Among my areas of expertise are depression, anxiety, trauma / PTSD, addiction, couples and relationship issues, spirituality, professional related issues, LGBT related issues in addition to general life issues and life transitions. I love working with people from all types of backgrounds and walks of life. I feel that having a healthy relationship with ourselves and with the people in our life is imperative to help us create a fulfilling, successful and prosperous lifestyle.
My coaching approach focuses on provided supportive and practical feedback to help men and couples effectively address personal life challenges. I offer a highly personalized approach tailored to each client. With compassion and understanding, I work with my clients to help them build on their strengths and attain the personal growth they are committed to accomplishing.
I also offer services in English and Spanish.
In my free time, I enjoy traveling, reading and exploring culinary adventures :)
Are you ready to move forward in life and unleash your badass life? It’s time to change those negative thoughts that are holding you back from achieving your goals and dreams. I’m here to get you to your goals and dreams now.
My background in counseling provides me with tools we can leverage to help you get out of your own head. I have an honest and direct approach to coaching. You are a whole person, which is why it’s so important to me to take a mind/body approach to coaching. I incorporate strategies that will help you silence your inner critic, feel less overwhelmed with life, and ultimately embrace who you’re becoming.
Are you an innovative thinker who would like to overcome deep-rooted patterns of thought that aren’t serving you? If so, you’ve come to the right place!
It was late-May 2020 when I sent an email that would change my life. George Floyd had just been murdered and I wasn’t on board with how my company wanted to respond. That email would cause a flurry of activity amongst the most senior leaders and propel me into a position where I felt my technical and analytical brain did not belong.
Enter: imposter syndrome.
Fast forward two years later and I found myself receiving a high-level award for the work I did in helping to advance equity, diversity, and inclusion in the organization. Maybe I wasn’t an imposter after all.
Perhaps you can relate to my struggle with such long-standing and profoundly ingrained patterns of thought. Imposter syndrome doesn’t even scratch the surface when it comes to the deep-rooted, and often self-sabotaging biases we hold in numerous areas of our life.
As a coach, I help innovative thinkers identify and overcome thought patterns that are getting in their way. With a focus on clarity through self-discovery, I will support you in finding the solutions you need to break down these barriers and make decisions you can be proud of, regardless of outcome. It’s time you start feeling good about the things you can control instead of bad about the things you can’t.
Let’s get started!
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